Does a person in what they percieve to be happy romantic relationship seriously question whether or not they should stay in their relationship?
Does a person what they perceive to be happy romantic relationship seriously entertain the notion of being with someone else? Does a person what they perceive to be happy romantic relationship seriously have crushes on other people?
Does a person what they percieve to be happy romantic relationship seriously lust after other people?
Does a person what they percieve to be happy romantic relationship seriously care only about their own feelings?

I would like to think the answer to each of those questions is "No". I wouldn't really be happy if I felt any other way. I'm not much of a love doctor, but I do stand by my opinions.

Why question staying in a relationship if you're happy? Be honest with yourself, if you're wondering if you should "end-it" but delude yourself into temporarily believing you're happy because it's the easy thing to do.. We all know that's not healthy. If you seriously wonder what life would be like with someone else, maybe you should be, and you don't deserve your partner.

Lust is a whole different kettle of fish. There's lust where it's all fleeting and socially amusing - the ooooo that's some seriously yummy eye-candy, mreow! Just like seeing a cute puppy and going "awww that's so cute!" and then walking on. It's just that, a fleeting thought that is had and then forgotten. Then there's the fantasy, think about 'em a little and get all hot and bothered and then the object of lust is then forgotten - think porn where the faces don't seem to matter. And then there's fantasy where it gets creepy combined with infatuation and evil bits of obsession.. and actually acting on impluse and hooking up (read: cheating). It's a bit of a grey area where cheating starts - the creepy fantasy bit or the hooking up? Everyone's got a different perspective.

It's all about the sharing. As wonderfully self-centered as I am, at least 50% of the time I think I wonder how my Timmeh is when we're apart. And God only knows how upset I get when I know he's hurting or upset. It's amazing how I can stay rational and function given my permanent ability to live in my erratic emotional rollercoaster of a brain. If you care only about yourself, that's really who you should be with; just you.

I look at life sometimes and wonder why some people stay together.. Life isn't meant to be hard, but it sure isn't meant to be easy either. I've learnt that hard choices make the happy bits that much smiley-er.